Online counselling is also available via Skype.
To book an appointment with him, or to make an enquiry, call 0161 881 4333 or Click here to email
What is bereavement?
Bereavement is the period of sadness and loneliness that we experience when we lose someone close to us. It can be one of the most unpleasant experiences that people will have in life.
Grief is our emotional response to loss, and is a perfectly normal and natural way of reacting to the death or loss of someone or something we care about. Given time and support, most people will eventually learn to cope and come to terms with the loss.
During the grieving process, people will experience a variety of intense emotional states. These may include shock, sadness, tearfulness, loneliness, denial, anger, guilt, regret, depression, and acceptance. As people come to terms with their loss the intensity of these emotions gradually subside.
The length of the bereavement process will vary from person to person. There is no correct length of time to grieve, for some it may be a few months, for others a year or two, and some people may never fully come to terms with their loss.
We most commonly associate grief with the death of close person, such as a friend or family member. But we may also experience grief for almost any type of loss. Whether that be the death of a beloved family pet, or the loss of a relationship, or loss of identity, or even the loss of our hopes and dreams.
Symptoms of grief
- Numbness or detachment
- Intense sadness and pain when you think about your loved one
- Irritability, anger or agitation
- Spending a lot of time focusing on your loved one’s death
- Extreme focus on reminders of your loved one
- Excessive avoidance of reminders of your loved one
- Intense and persistent longing for the deceased
- Problems accepting the death
- Eating more or less than usual
- Guilt or regrets
- Bitterness about your loss
- Inability to enjoy life
- Inability to think back on positive experiences with your loved one
- Feeling that life holds no meaning or purpose
- Lack of trust in others
Simple Grief and Complicated Grief
The symptoms of normal simple grief and complicated grief are initially the same. The difference is that the symptoms of simple grief will gradually diminish over the first few months after your loss. If the symptoms of your grief do not fade with time, or they seem to be getting worse, then it is likely that it has become complicated grief.
Issues that may complicate or prolong the grieving process and increase the likelihood of a complicated bereavement disorder include having pre-existing mental health conditions, multiple stressors, multiple bereavements, emotional dependency, or substance abuse issues.
If you are having suicidal thoughts
If you are are having suicidal thoughts then you should either talk to someone you can trust, contact your GP, or call the Samaritans 24hr helpline on 116 123.
If you feel you are about to act on your suicidal thoughts, then go straight to Accident & Emergency at your local hospital, or call 999.
When to seek help from a bereavement counsellor?
If you are suffering from complicated grief or depression then it would be worth seeking professional help from a bereavement counsellor.
Booking your bereavement counselling is easy
Simply phone me on 0161 881 4333 or Click here to email to make an appointment now.
I recommend booking an Initial Consultation/Assessment Session first. This gives us the chance to begin to explore, answers to any questions you might have, give you an estimate of the number of sessions you may require and begin the process of change. For many people, short-term therapy (6-12 session) will be sufficient. For more complex issues longer-term therapy may be more appropriate.
I practice from a consulting room in my home located in Chorlton in South Manchester, close to junction 7 & 8 of the M60 and the end of the M56. The Chorlton Metrolink stop is nearby, and there are also regular buses.
If you can’t travel to me then I am available for online counselling via Skype.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions.
Related Grief and Bereavement Counselling and Support Websites:
- Wikipedia: Grief Counselling
- Counselling Directory – Bereavement
- NHS Choices: Bereavement Support
- Central Manchester University Hospitals: Bereavement Advice and Support Service
- Cruse Bereavement Care
Inner Changes bereavement counselling is available in the Greater Manchester, Cheshire and Lancashire area.